Before kids, we used to buy one another Christmas presents, and it was glorious. The presents weren’t crazy expensive, but they were decent, in a budget way, and gave us the opportunity to show how much we valued one another and our friendship. The unbreakable bond between us. We’ve kept that unbreakable bond through childbirth, stretched it and pushed it to it’s limits. And yet, here we are, still mates. And how do we recognise that incredible bond that has survived through one of the most difficult (and fabulous) times of our life. By buying presents for somebody else!
OK, that somebody else is your child, but what have they done for me? What have my kids done for you? I’ll tell you. They took up all the time that we used to spend together. They stopped us from going to the pub because we need to be there to feed them, play with them, stay up all night with them, tidy up after them and generally give up every ounce of self and dignity for them.
Why are we rewarding such behaviour?
Well, no more!
This year, I will not be buying Christmas presents for your kids. I will be spending the whole budget on you. Because when I’m struggling to get through the day because I need to feed, play with, stay up all night with and tidy up constantly after my kids, you pick me back up and put me right. And I love you for it.
It won’t be a classy present. It definitely won’t be expensive. But what it will be is a real life token of how much you mean to me. It’s been missing too long. Time to bring it back.
PS please don’t buy my kids anything. My house is becoming like the ocean, so full of small plastic crap, that we may start accidentally eating it if we’re not careful.
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SARAH CANTRILL is a woman on a mission to inspire every young child to become a reader for pleasure. She is the Artistic Director & Founder of STORY STORKS, a social enterprise that delivers interactive story workshops to early years children and their grown-ups, that help kids to fall in love with stories and develop their early language skills meaning that they have an easier time of learning to read when the time is right. She is also passionate about helping and supporting parents through the early years and lobbying for a better understanding of them and the issues they present. Occasionally she also speaks up for the kids too!